Sex for the Sake of All

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Sex for the Sake of All–The below is an excerpt from Blue Truth: A Spiritual Guide to Life & Death and Love & Sex by David Deida, an American author who writes about sexual and spiritual growth. I found his ideas to be thought-provoking and relevant for everyday individuals. I would encourage others to check out his books.–Offer Sex for the Sake of AllWhen you and your lover are feeling separated by conflict, how can you shift the energy from tension to passion? If your lover is a man, grab his genitals. If your lover is a woman, be totally present with tender gazes, loving words and affectionate touch.A man’s body is built so that first comes sexual flow, then emotional openness. For most men, overtly sexual touch quickly opens their heart when it is closed. But a woman’s body is built so that first comes emotional openness, then sexual flow. That is, most women don’t want to open sexually until they are first open emotionally.For masculine essence-men, energy opening comes first, then emotional opening. Such a man often needs to feel pleasurable, sexual energy flowing – his woman’s hair against his groin, her kurtköy escort lips on his neck, her nipples brushing his thigh – before he is relaxed and attracted into life enough to want to open emotionally. The masculine is not at home in life and body, and therefore must first be attracted into the flesh before being willing and able to commune through the heart. For feminine-essence women, emotional opening comes first, then energy flows. Such a woman wants to feel her man’s presence, his caring, his heart’s connecting with hers, and then she opens in the flow of sexual energy. When a woman is tense and closed, her man would be making a mistake to abruptly grab her breasts. She would feel angry, even more closed, perhaps even disgusted at his insensitive grope.On the other hand, when a man is tense and closed, his woman would be surprised at how quickly his heart opens when he feels her lips around his penis – the more abrupt and sudden the better. A man’s heart openness follows his body’s flow of energy, whereas a woman’s flow of sexual energy follows her heart openness.In intimacy with maltepe escort your opposite-essence lover, the doorway to openness is often exactly what you don’t want to do. Deep intimacy requires that you know how to open a sexual essence quite unlike yours.The key to opening a man’s heart is to understand that, in intimacy, the masculine essence usually values the gift of life-energy more than the gift of emotional presence. Life-energy – expressed sexually and as bodily radiance – is so valued that many men have left a woman they deeply love for a woman with whom they can flow more deeply in sexual passion. People’s hearts are attracted to open by their reciprocal. Masculine consciousness is attracted to feminine energy. A consciously present woman is great, but a gloriously radiant woman makes a man happy to be alive.A radiant woman, on the other hand, yearns for depth of presence in intimacy. She wants a man who can truly feel her, a man who can feel her through her surfaces into her deep heart. She doesn’t want a man who is distracted, ambiguous, and all over the place. A radiant kartal escort man is great, but a man who is truly present provides the feminine with an opportunity to trust, open, and know she is taken into account. She can feel her man’s deep integrity and strength of consciousness. If your lover is a masculine-essence man, erotically shock his body into full energy-flow, using your radiant body to sexually arouse, inspire, and magnetize his, and then commune with his heart through gaze, touch, and words. If your lover is a feminine-essence woman, feel into her deeply, communicating your fully present love through gaze, touch, and words first, communing with her heart in sweet merger until she begs for sexual contact.You can practice opening with your lover, skillfully giving and receiving the gifts of presence and radiance, serving each other to open even more than you might on your own. Eventually, as you move beyond your own closure with the help of your lover’s gifts, you can begin practicing to open as the entire living moment.Through your lover’s gifts, open to make love as the entire moment.When serving your lover, offer your gifts of deep presence and pleasurable energy so that your lover may open as the entire moment, for the sake of all.___________________________________________________________Blue Truth: A Spiritual Guide to Life & Death and Love & Sexby David Deida

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